Feb 02 2014
I have been swamped with work – or more correctly swamped surviving the wondrous Obama economic mess. The good news is we may be seeing some light ahead, and it is not a train!
This and the fact that past 6 years of Obama’s leadership mess is still settling in has given me pause to blog. The GOP has missed the point, the Social Right still has its blinders on (confusing their right to open expression with a demand everyone follow their views). We are still in a tail spin, heading for a brutal impact.
How many ways can you write “Epoch Fail”?
Sadly, Dylan Farrow was able to discover one more way. I say “sadly” because she was forced by a ‘me’ society gone mad to try and protect the victims of this rampant self-absorption we are now immersed in. Many of those in Hollywood (and the liberal, wealthy left) are slipping into debauchery. Too many are unable to find a reason to exist and therefore sink into the abyss of self-reward.
Just compare someone like Bono or other wealthy folks fighting for the “not so fortunate” and one Woody Allen. Which one is more common? Which one is more admired in popular culture? Which one is more Nero than Plato? Which path will America take? Honestly, I don’t know, but I know what I would prefer.
Dylan Farrow asks some hard hitting questions. She is giving America a well-deserved wake up call. For example, do we simply sit on the side lines and let the corrupt and debased among us bring our culture down to their level?
That he got away with what he did to me haunted me as I grew up. I was stricken with guilt that I had allowed him to be near other little girls. I was terrified of being touched by men. I developed an eating disorder. I began cutting myself. That torment was made worse by Hollywood. All but a precious few (my heroes) turned a blind eye. Most found it easier to accept the ambiguity, to say, “who can say what happened,” to pretend that nothing was wrong.
How does this differ from witnessing a rape, mugging or murder and simply stand by? Or not testify? Or worse, praise the criminal and chastise the victim?
How does this differ from stripping millions of people of their health care, and then force their costs to skyrocket so that they cannot afford the most basic items? How do we stand by in the face of carnage and simply ignore or rationalize away those suffering?
Do we turn a blind eye and deaf ear so the gravy train (or power trip) is not disrupted by hard decisions and deeds? Is this the price of our moral soul these days – save the party, save the career, save the powerful and self absorbed, save the arrogant know-it-alls wasting their “one verse” in the grand story of humanity?
Last week, Woody Allen was nominated for his latest Oscar. But this time, I refuse to fall apart. For so long, Woody Allen’s acceptance silenced me. It felt like a personal rebuke, like the awards and accolades were a way to tell me to shut up and go away. But the survivors of sexual abuse who have reached out to me – to support me and to share their fears of coming forward, of being called a liar, of being told their memories aren’t their memories – have given me a reason to not be silent, if only so others know that they don’t have to be silent either.
Today, I consider myself lucky. I am happily married. I have the support of my amazing brothers and sisters. I have a mother who found within herself a well of fortitude that saved us from the chaos a predator brought into our home.
Here is the difference between Dylan Farrow and Woody Allen. It takes a lot of self discipline to raise a family, protect them and not sink into self obsession. Conservatives tend to shy away from the disaster of “its all about me”, and instead promote SELF sacrifice (not government mandated sacrifice). Liberals eschew the bonds of discipline, self control and “off limits”. Why, they ask, can’t they wallow in self appeasement? Why do I have to have limits? That is why liberals react so intensely to religion. It is their bane. (BTW, I am not including main stream democrats in with liberals).
What happens when self appeasement becomes the main priority in a life? You get the sickness of Woody Allen. To satiate his desires he knew no bounds. He is the epitome of self absorption. And he comes from a culture and industry that has been the most recalcitrant to get rid of the casting couch, the exploitation of sex, least able to respect self control. Hollywood is obsessed with obliterating the “Off Limits” signs in society. And they now have the results of that obsession.
My hat is off to Dylan, for surviving and standing up. I sadly have known of too many instances of sexual predation (both real and imagined) with friends and colleagues and family. It is the most abhorrent of acts of “me-ism” out there. When someone’s needs reduce humans to simple objects (read victims), they have reached the pinnacle of no limits.
We will see how Hollywood and America react to Dylan Farrow – and we will chose a path. She has made sure of that.
Update: Another example of someone who hates limits desperately needing some:
“Now that liberals have forwarded their agenda by inserting a mass gay wedding into the Grammys, conservatives must match them tit-for-tat by having a mass shooting at the Country Music Awards,” Maher said Friday during his HBO program, “Real Time with Bill Maher.”
Simple, childish minds are cute in children. Not so much in supposed mature adults.